coaching, and psychotherapy all exist to bring about positive
Whether that change is in yourself, your relationships, or
the ultimate goal is to create a satisfying, enjoyable, richer,
and more meaningful life.
Make Sense of Your
Sometimes people find that their feelings and choices don’t
make sense to them. For example,
one person might not understand why he becomes angry in certain
situations, another might not understand why she stays in
a demoralizing job, another might wonder why he procrastinates
on important projects, and another may question why she stays
with a partner who finds fault with her. Sometimes people
experience conflict between what they think and what they
feel. For example, one person may think she wants to eat a
healthy diet, but she feels like eating cake and ice cream.
Another person may think he wants to develop a healthy social
network but feels anxious when approaching new people.
Counseling can help you discover the beliefs and expectations
you hold at an emotional level. These develop out of life
experience, and have the power to influence or control your
feelings and actions. By working with a psychologist, you
can bring your inner beliefs and expectations out into the
open where they can be tested, challenged, and understood.
Counseling can also help you learn to recognize your needs
and wishes, and to identify alternative means to satisfy them.
It is a process that can help you to better understand yourself,
your motivations, and your reactions to others.
Make Healthier Choices
As self-understanding evolves, the emotional beliefs and
expectations that have affected you start to lose some of
their power. Although they never go away completely, recognizing
when they become activated, and how they influence your choices,
helps to minimize their control. This allows you to see things
more clearly, put things in perspective, and make choices
that reflect self-value more easily. Counseling can help you
approach life with greater confidence and to take more responsibility
for bringing about your own happiness.
Relationships, particularly intimate relationships, set the
stage for much of life’s greatest joy and contentment,
as well as for much of life’s pain and confusion. Working
on relationship issues often involves learning to understand
not only yourself but the other person as well. As you come
to appreciate the emotional needs of your partner, as well
as the framework they struggle within, you come to accept
and care for that person more fully and completely. One of
the wonderful things about pursuing counseling with a significant
other is that it acts as a catalyst for self-discovery. You
come to understand yourself more quickly and more deeply when
you are examining things in the context of a relationship.
Another positive outcome of couples counseling is that each
of you learns what your responsibilities are within a relationship.
You learn how to care for each other better, and ultimately
can find greater safety and love with your partner.
Find Joy in Your
Sometimes people find themselves in a job or a work environment
that brings little joy, satisfaction, or sense of accomplishment.
Counseling and coaching can help you discover career paths
that fit with who you are. Through testing, exercises, and
discussion, you can develop a stronger sense of your talents,
skills, and interests. Once this has been accomplished, options
for your future can be generated. These might include pursuing
education, moving to a different field of work, or starting
your own business. Working with a counselor or coach can help
you establish your goals, outline the steps you need to take,
and provide you with encouragement along the way. You can
find joy, not only in the end result but in the process of